I seem to be facing an on-going issue about how to remain open-hearted. Much of the time, I feel that I am accepting of people and where they are at; and then something happens which triggers my insecurities and I feel fearful. I recently became cold towards an acquaintance because I found out that she had been telling lies about me. The thing is, I instinctively knew that she disliked me , but until I was actually told, I had tried to remain accepting of her. Now, things are frosty on both sides, and I feel ashamed and wish that I had managed to stay open-hearted. I have also had a number of other instances where I have realised that my initial response hasn’t been brilliant. I understand the need to be discerning (not everyone is my friend) yet I really struggle at times with how that sits with remaining open-hearted especially when my own insecurities are threatened. I want to be true to myself and remain unflappable but sometimes that is such a struggle especially when I
have to see people that I would otherwise avoid! I know that this stuff is coming up so that I can deal with it, but do you have any advice that might help? X

Dear Katy,

When we are open hearted we can offer unconditional love, compassion and empathy. We can see that the other person in a situation is a soul on a journey and that they may be at a different stage in their learning. We do not need to allow these people into our lives, or to detract from our happiness, in order to be open hearted. Send them love and blessings, thank their soul for the lesson that it has brought to you and then move on.

Namaste

Susan